#2x – The ‘Sugar Daddy’ Infestation
Why do we always manage to excuse the decisions of grown men as “they’re just being men” even when their behaviours are tantamount to ruining an entire generation? Why do we accept that fathers, uncles, cousins and even friends prey on young girls – that aren’t as exposed to real world adult dangers as we are? Why do we continue to justify the behaviour of men as if they are not capable of understanding what is wrong and what is right? Why are the interventions not focused on discouraging predatory behaviour?
Once again a victim blaming tactic is used to tell young women and girls (based on the target age group) to stay away from danger while the danger itself is not actually being addressed and removed.
We speak of how parents need to inform their children of all the dangers of the world, young girls are targeted from the youngest of ages by men who refuse to use the ability to understand and respect that they are children. Children who are in dire need of protection from men like these Sugar Daddies, from these paedophiles. We justify it as “these girls should know better” but we fail to stop and ask ourselves, “Did we know better?” “Did we teach them better”.
It is high time that our leaders also stopped placing adult responsibilities on children. I am aware that maybe educating young girls on older men that prey on them are a reality, but to create an entire programme worth about R3 billion to teach young girls how to identify and teach them how to avoid these predators – could be useful, however, there are issues that local communities are experiencing that could put that budget to better use. The surge of sugar daddies and their popularity is in no way a small “problem” but it is just too one dimensional the way it is being addressed by provincial governments.
Current youth issues will ultimately impact the number of people able to vote, both now and in future, Do we then sit back and say nothing, or do we fight for these children’s rights to just be kids? They will one day be old enough to vote and will look back at their childhood and wonder what did that government do for me then that I want them to continue to do now? What contribution from me did they ask before making decisions about how my tax money will be spent?
What steps did they take to ensure that what they do to “improve” our society was backed up by back rational (scientific if necessary) reasoning and evidence? Does their political, moral and ethical ethos align with the way they run this country? These questions need answers.
Co-Written with: @nollyodbanks